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Should Parents Bribe Their Children?
Sometimes children don’t naturally do what their parents want them to do. They play video games instead of reading books. They don’t clean up their toys after they’re finished playing. They make too much noise or don’t eat their vegetables. As they get older, they might not do their homework, study for tests or clean their room. What’s a thoughtful parent to do?
Should parents bribe their children to do what’s right — with cash, extra screen time or other extrinsic rewards?
In “The Right Way to Bribe Your Kids to Read,” KJ Dell’Antonia writes about trying to find the best way to motivate children:
My children need to read this summer. They’re in the middle of a long vacation from school, and I want them to enjoy it — but I also want them to be able to pick up their education where they left off when school starts again in the fall.
Kids who read over the summer lose fewer skills than kids who don’t. This is especially important for children from low-income families and those with language problems, like my younger daughter. When reading is difficult, so is almost everything else. As new readers move from decoding text to fluency, every subject from math to history becomes more accessible, but practice is the only way to get there.
My kids (15, 12, 10 and 10) have an enviable amount of time to read, and plenty of books to choose from. Yet it’s already clear that beyond a late August dash to fulfill their assignments, very few pages are likely to be turned unless I do something. But what?
The answer many parents fall back on is bribery.
Students: Read the entire article, then tell us:
— Should parents bribe their children with money, treats or toys? Are bribes an effective way to get children to do what parents want them to do, such as read more books, eat healthier food or be better behaved? Can they be a way to jump-start or encourage a certain behavior that eventually becomes a habit?
— Or are bribes counterproductive in the long run? Do they end up teaching the wrong lessons? Will children become accustomed to doing the desired behavior (reading, eating healthy, et cetera) only when they expect to receive a reward? For example, will they never learn to read for pure enjoyment?
— Did your parents ever use bribes or rewards with you? Do they still? Did they use sticker charts to encourage reading? Or cash to get you to clean your room? Did the bribes work? Did they backfire? What advice would you give your parents on how to motivate you to do what they think is best?
— Should parents bribe their children with money, treats or toys? Are bribes an effective way to get children to do what parents want them to do, such as read more books, eat healthier food or be better behaved? Can they be a way to jump-start or encourage a certain behavior that eventually becomes a habit?
ReplyDelete— Or are bribes counterproductive in the long run? Do they end up teaching the wrong lessons? Will children become accustomed to doing the desired behavior (reading, eating healthy, et cetera) only when they expect to receive a reward? For example, will they never learn to read for pure enjoyment?
— Did your parents ever use bribes or rewards with you? Do they still? Did they use sticker charts to encourage reading? Or cash to get you to clean your room? Did the bribes work? Did they backfire? What advice would you give your parents on how to motivate you to do what they think is best?
I think parents need to bribe their children with money,treats,or toys.Bribes are an effective way to get children to do what parents want them to do.Like reading more books,eating healthier food,or to be better behaved.Bribes are a jump start to making kids learn and to obey there parents.Bribes are counterproductive in the long run because the kids will ask for more candy,money and toys.If the parent doesnt agree to their childs order than the child wont do it.Which makes the parent frustrated and mad which then leads to a physical fight.They do end up teaching the wrong lessons.Children will never learn to read for pure enjoyment because it depends on their personality,if there lazy and if they love to read.My parents sometimes used bribes or rewards with me it was very rare but I had to do the chores or else I wouldn’t be able to go to sleep,play, or go out or anything.So I couldn’t do the things that I really enjoyed without cleaning, doing homework,or anything that my parents ordered me to do.They don’t give me any rewards except for my dad.Like today I had a cross country meet in ocean county park in Lakewood and last week I had a time of 38:52 and today I had a time and personal best of 33:30 minutes.So after the game my dad bought me a new pair of sneakers,a watch for running, and also a new backpack.He also kept telling me that I did great also coach langer said that I was 5 minutes faster than last weeks meet that that is very impressive for running and it would take a year for a runner to get that fast.They don’t use sticker charts for my reading.I don’t get money for cleaning my room or chores.The bribes do work because it gets me to work harder and I feel good that I accomplished something.They do not backfire.I think my parents should keep on doing what there doing but to make some more rewards when I improve on things because the bribes are very rare and I feel like I can do anything after I finish something.
ReplyDeleteI like how you gave examples of things you said and of how your parents bribe you with things and gave lots of detail of it.
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ReplyDelete— Should parents bribe their children with money, treats or toys? Are bribes an effective way to get children to do what parents want them to do, such as read more books, eat healthier food or be better behaved? Can they be a way to jump-start or encourage a certain behavior that eventually becomes a habit?
— Or are bribes counterproductive in the long run? Do they end up teaching the wrong lessons? Will children become accustomed to doing the desired behavior (reading, eating healthy, et cetera) only when they expect to receive a reward? For example, will they never learn to read for pure enjoyment?
— Did your parents ever use bribes or rewards with you? Do they still? Did they use sticker charts to encourage reading? Or cash to get you to clean your room? Did the bribes work? Did they backfire? What advice would you give your parents on how to motivate you to do what they think is best?
: I think parents should bribe their children with money if it's the only best way to do it. Bribes is an effective way to get children to do what their parent wants them to do.There could be an encourage a certain behavior that could eventually become a habit.
:Bribes could be counterproductive in the long run. At some point it could teach the children a bad way like if their parent kept giving them money then that will be problem cause what if the parent doesn't have it at the time does that mean the kid just gets to lay back and do nothing ?, Also they will never learn to read for pure enjoyment.
:My parents did at first try to bribe me to always do good in school and to get all my work done and i'll get an allowance. To this day maybe my mom probably will bribe me a couple times. Yes the bribes did work well. An advice i'll give my parents to motivate me is to always try to ask for help ask to see my homework to see if it's done well.
I like the way you explained when parents should bribe their kids that if needed money is the last thing to use
DeleteI think parents bribing their kids can go both ways. It could be a good idea or a bad idea. Because bribing can get your kids to do things you need them to but on the other hand, it’s going to make them think a certain way now. It teacher your child that they will get money or toys or a treat if they do it. It can make your kid think, “oh well i do have to do anything till mommy or daddy comes up with a gift”. It could eventually have your child play you out. Or even they could say hey well i don’t always have to have a treat or toy i can go without one today and not have to do what i’m told. Yes i believe it will jump-start or encourage a certain behavior that can become a habit. Kids are very smart and know how to get around things. My parents never bribed me when i was a kid. It was just me and my dad, he a large man very tough, and i was scared to not listen. But ever since i could understand right from wrong we had rules my dad is very chill and laid back but he is very serious about me doing the things i need to. So i was never bribed, but when i did my chores or things i was supposed to i would sometimes maybe get a toy or money, if he felt i was doing very good and he didn’t have to tell me twice i would get a treat. All in all bribing is a blessing and a curse and who knows what your outcome will be.
ReplyDeleteIm going to be honest, i think bribing is wrong. Unless the cause is a life or death situation, i strongly believe its wrong. And, the fact that parents will bribe their own child is even worse, cause then they grow up and think they get paid for stupid things like washing dishes. I dont believe parents should ever bribe children.
DeleteIm going to be honest, i think bribing is wrong. Unless the cause is a life or death situation, i strongly believe its wrong. And, the fact that parents will bribe their own child is even worse, cause then they grow up and think they get paid for stupid things like washing dishes. I dont believe parents should ever bribe children.
Delete— Should parents bribe their children with money, treats or toys? Are bribes an effective way to get children to do what parents want them to do, such as read more books, eat healthier food or be better behaved? Can they be a way to jump-start or encourage a certain behavior that eventually becomes a habit?
ReplyDelete— Or are bribes counterproductive in the long run? Do they end up teaching the wrong lessons? Will children become accustomed to doing the desired behavior (reading, eating healthy, et cetera) only when they expect to receive a reward? For example, will they never learn to read for pure enjoyment?
— Did your parents ever use bribes or rewards with you? Do they still? Did they use sticker charts to encourage reading? Or cash to get you to clean your room? Did the bribes work? Did they backfire? What advice would you give your parents on how to motivate you to do what they think is best?
1-I think people who have to bribe their children to do stuff is bad parenting, you're not raising them right if they need a new toy or some money to get stuff done. If you bribe your kids to help you around the house, read the summer book, get all his/her homework done before playing video game. If the bribe works then they are going to think whenever they do something they will get a reward.
2-I agree that it will be counterproductive that kids will never learn what to do and what not to do. If kids are bribed their entire life when they grow up and have a job, If he/she is asked to do something they would expect to receive a reward. If they are bribed to eat fruit, or read books they will only do that stuff if they think they are going to get a reward if not they won't move a muscle.
3- When i was little my parent never bribed me with money but they would use a sticker chart to get me to read. It worked for about a week then i realized that the stickers don't mean anything and i stopped reading for a while. No my parents don't still bribe me because if they did it would be a lot of money and they wouldn't do that, but when i was little the sticker chart backfired on them because late at night me and my brother would go downstairs and put stickers by our names. If my parent had to motivate me to do something today all they would have to do is say its for school or something and i'll listen.
No i think parents should not bribe their children in any type of way. Us kids should get school work done no matter how much they wanna play games. Bribing your child is not gonna do any good for you or him because if you do that then that child is gonna expect for you to bribe him everyday just for him to do his homework. Yes bribing your child is just gonna teach them a wrong lesson by doing nothing good for themselves. If you bribe your child they will not do their work until you bribe them. They will not listen to you until you bribe them. Bribing them is just a way for them to listen to you but at the same time not listen to you. No my parents has NEVER used the bribing technique on me because i'm my own person and i listen to my mom regardless of weather i need to do my work or not. No my mom has not paid me cash to clean my room. My room is always clean so there's no need for it. You have to be in control of your own child do not let them take control of you and your money or anything else. You should tell them to do their homework if they don't ? take away their game and don't give it back to them until they listen to you.
ReplyDeletei agree with your reply. parents shouldnt bribe their kids because it looks like the only way you get your kid to listen is by gifts. i like your examples and your response in gerenal you did a good job
Delete— Should parents bribe their children with money, treats or toys? Are bribes an effective way to get children to do what parents want them to do, such as read more books, eat healthier food or be better behaved? Can they be a way to jump-start or encourage a certain behavior that eventually becomes a habit?
ReplyDelete1) I don't think parents should even have to bribe children. There kids should listen regardless and do what they’re told. I don't get bribed with money. The faster you get done, the faster you have fun. It's a good thing to live by. If a parent needs to bribe their child, there's something wrong with your kid or the way you treat him. The only way I would need to get bribed by my parents is if it's something dangerous.
— Or are bribes counterproductive in the long run? Do they end up teaching the wrong lessons? Will children become accustomed to doing the desired behavior (reading, eating healthy, et cetera) only when they expect to receive a reward? For example, will they never learn to read for pure enjoyment?
2) They teach kids the wrong thing. They will end up thinking they have to get something for everything they do. If you're asked to do something you should just do it out of respect. Yes, people get paid to work, but the paycheck you get is needed. When you work, you work cause you need the money to have a healthy life and not be poor. But bribery is not helping you live, that's just being greedy and always needing something just for taking out like the garbage.
— Did your parents ever use bribes or rewards with you? Do they still? Did they use sticker charts to encourage reading? Or cash to get you to clean your room? Did the bribes work? Did they backfire? What advice would you give your parents on how to motivate you to do what they think is best?
3) Parents still bribe their kids to do things. And i dont agree with it, I think its wrong that kids won’t do whats asked. Those are the type of kids who grow up without consequences, and think they should get paid for everything they do. If i ever said no to my dad and didnt do what was asked, i’d be grounded for a month.
— Should parents bribe their children with money, treats or toys? Are bribes an effective way to get children to do what parents want them to do, such as read more books, eat healthier food or be better behaved? Can they be a way to jump-start or encourage a certain behavior that eventually becomes a habit?
ReplyDelete1) I don't think parents should even have to bribe children. There kids should listen regardless and do what they’re told. I don't get bribed with money. The faster you get done, the faster you have fun. It's a good thing to live by. If a parent needs to bribe their child, there's something wrong with your kid or the way you treat him. The only way I would need to get bribed by my parents is if it's something dangerous.
— Or are bribes counterproductive in the long run? Do they end up teaching the wrong lessons? Will children become accustomed to doing the desired behavior (reading, eating healthy, et cetera) only when they expect to receive a reward? For example, will they never learn to read for pure enjoyment?
2) They teach kids the wrong thing. They will end up thinking they have to get something for everything they do. If you're asked to do something you should just do it out of respect. Yes, people get paid to work, but the paycheck you get is needed. When you work, you work cause you need the money to have a healthy life and not be poor. But bribery is not helping you live, that's just being greedy and always needing something just for taking out like the garbage.
— Did your parents ever use bribes or rewards with you? Do they still? Did they use sticker charts to encourage reading? Or cash to get you to clean your room? Did the bribes work? Did they backfire? What advice would you give your parents on how to motivate you to do what they think is best?
3) Parents still bribe their kids to do things. And i dont agree with it, I think its wrong that kids won’t do whats asked. Those are the type of kids who grow up without consequences, and think they should get paid for everything they do. If i ever said no to my dad and didnt do what was asked, i’d be grounded for a month.